Well it seems every man and his dog is getting pregnant! Just read Shar’s blog, congrats Shar (if you happen to read), that’s awesome news. And of course Hils, which is just lovely, and Marce too!
I have my own story to share here. Awhile ago you may have noticed there was a bit of a depressed and sad feel about my blog posts. About 4 weeks ago I was pregnant too. First go, bang, preggo, found out when we were on the Gold Coast. Must have conceived the very week (ie a few days!) after my comp. We were very proud of that effort, me being 40, and our first go and all. We were so excited, we really weren’t expecting it and it was a real surprise. Every waking (and even sleeping!) thought was about being pregnant. It gave me such a calm, contented feeling. A week later it all turned to crap. I started bleeding. And didn’t stop for a week. I ended up in emergency, for 3 hours, sitting there waiting, knowing that I was losing my baby. Hoping it would stop and they would be able to tell me everything was still ok. Everytime I went to the bathroom to check, the blood flow seemed to be just getting heavier, and I had terrible cramping to go with it. So, the realization started to sink in, and my thoughts, somehow, had to return to ‘normal’ and forget about being pregnant. As I said, it took a week to get over the physical symptoms of the miscarriage, so it wasn’t like I could even try forget about it. I didn’t want to see anyone, talk to anyone or go anywhere. I was so tired, and was sleeping all the time – natural I suppose, my poor bod had just finished a comp, got pregnant and miscarried all within the space of a few weeks.
So, anyway, that was a month ago now, and I am very much normal again now. I visited the ob/gyn on Monday anyway, and had a good chat to him. We will just keep trying and see what happens. My cycle is already back to normal so bring it on. 
I’m sharing the story because, well, it’s part of my life, and it’s part of what I have had to deal with. I must say I’ve become quite resilient in my old age! Which brings me to publish a lovely email I received from a reader recently:
Hi Sue
I am sure you hear it all the time but just wanted to know that you are very inspiring and it really helps for you to write your blogs warts and all, and not bullshit that everyday is sunshine any bunny rabbits and that we are all the same and not alone.
Everyday certainly isn’t sunshine and bunny rabbits But we do what we have to.
Anyway, I am so, so happy for Hils and Shar and Marce and everyone else that is preggo or had babies recently. I hope to join you soon!
Sue, I know you don’t know me personally, but I just wanted to thank you for opening up to us. I can only imagine how traumatic the past month has been for you and it wouldn’t have been easy to tell us all. I really hope you get your baby dream. When I look at how much dedication, support and kindness you show to your IBO clients (friends), I just know you will be an absolutely wonderful mother. When I’m doubting myself, I will think of your courage and strength and I will keep going. Thank you for continuing to be the inspiring person that you are xx
Thanks for sharing such a personal story with us all Sue
You have achieved so much in your life and inspired so many people with your amazing strength and knowledge – I’m sure that happiness will come very soon to you and your husband.
Hi Sue
Thanks for sharing…it must have been difficult for you.
for what it is worth, you might feel better in knowing there are many other women who have gone through and experienced mis-carriage – me being one of them. Even now, thinking of it, is very emotional. I lost mine at 8 weeks and balled my eyes out for a whole day and shut myself away for some time. I couldn’t look at babies because I would burst into tears at the sight. It’s difficult to explain the attachment to your unborn child, unless you’ve been there.
All I can say is that if it can happen once (pregnancy that is), it can happen again. So have faith and give yourself the right environment, nurture your body, and take care of yourself, for the best possible chance.
My second pregnancy with Philomena, I had a huge bleed and I thought I’d lost (her) again, but alas, when we did the ultrasound, there she was – heart pumping nice and strong.
So keep strong and have faith!
((((((hugs))))))
Thanks for sharing that Sue, it does take a lot of courage to share that level of personal detail about yourself especially to complete strangers! I guess you just have to have faith that it wasn’t meant to be that time, but it will be soon, the universe will align when the time is right! Don’t forget you are much fitter and healthier than many 40 year olds out there and that would definitely have played a part in getting pregnant so easily the first time so it will happen again when it’s meant to! And lastly, being relaxed and not taking it all too seriously is the key, keep it fun! xo
Hi Sue,
I just wanted to express how much I feel for you. I know what you are going through as I too had a miscarriage earlier this year. You don’t realise how traumatic a miscarriage is until it happens to you. It’s hard to hear at the time but it is great that you can get pregnant, it really makes you realise what little miracles babies are! Things do get better with time.
Good Luck with the baby making!
Hilds
Hey Sue
Thanks for your congrats.
So sorry to here your news and what a horrid experience.
I am still very worried as I am so early in and it is so common, I didn’t realise so until I got back into researching it all etc.
I hope all settles well and it is as easy to fall again and next time is sucessful for you both.
Thinking of you
Shar
Hey Sue,
As I have said many times to you before; you are inspirational to us all. I for one feel very grateful to have found you and IBO….
Thank you for sharing such a personal journey…and for maintaining a real but positive attitude, which ‘rubs off’ on us all… xxx
Karen
Hi Sue,
I can relate to you as I had one to, many moons ago & it was like you, bang pregnant 1st go & lost it just as quick… (it was my first)
You’ll most definatley get pregnant again & it’s a big thing to be relaxed about it when trying.
I made the mistake of just wanting that & nothing else, 8 months later & nothing so I just couldn’t handle it anymore, and decided that was it, I was over it and the turmoil it was placing on me.
well what do you know the minute I gave up I concieved my baby girl, bang right on that month…
I wish you all the luck, just have fun along the way…
Hi Sue
You don’t know me personally either, although I have purchased your programs online before.
I too had a miscarriage at 13 weeks, after we had told everyone we were expecting (thinking 12 week mark would be safe). I ended up having a very rare condition which caused the miscarriage and had to wait 12 months before we could try again…it seemed at that point in my life everyone around me was getting pregnant and I felt like they were all rubbing it in my face….he he (of course they weren’t just the emotions you face). So my husband and I now have a beautiful girl who is 2, but when I was pregnant with her, I bleed at 12 weeks (thankfully we hadn’t told anyone at this point) and thought here we go again! But the ultrasound revealed her heart pumping away and that’s when we revealed our news to family and friends.
No doubt you will feel a wave of emotions for weeks/months to come. I often wonder what our first little person would have been like today….
So glad you shared your story with us, as it makes people realise that you too do face challenges like the rest of us but you continue to exercise and make good food choices even in not so nice circumstances.
Hope your family dreams come true for you soon.
Regards
Kylie
You’re a remarkable woman Sue, I am blessed to know you
So sorry to hear about the miscarriage. I am glad to hear you are still trying and all is returning to normal. Will keep my fingers crossed for you (but somehow I don’t think that’s how you get pregnant!) … keep up the positive attitude!
Thank you so much for your well-wishes Sue. Its amazing to hear how common it is to experience a miscarriage, and its something that I have been stressing over ever since we found out. I’m still worried about it.
I have my fingers and toes crossed for you both, and I know that you will get there too, now you know that its possible.
Hilary xx
Hi Sue,
You don’t know me personally but we have conversed via email and I am currently doing your “diet project”. I know what you are going thru also. I like you at the age of 41 conceived naturally on my fist attempt and had a massive bleed at week 6. Convinced I had miscarried doctors found a heart beat much to my suprise…it appears that I conceived twins (separate sacs) and miscarried the one. For the next 9 months I was not allowed to move and had to give up work and exercicse which I loved…but it has all been worth it now. I was further confronted with more problems throughout my pregnancy and required hospitalisation. You can say my anxiety levels were at an all time high…just managing to get it together now.Perhaps sometimes these things happen as it natures way of telling us that it was not meant to be. I wish you and your husband every success in your “baby making”
Big hugs and much respect to you for sharing, miscarriages are a painful time physically and mentally, all you can do is wait for your body to recover, and sounds like yours has, so get back on that horse (so to speak)and try again!!
(I had to have a D&C in Jan as I lost a baby at 9 weeks so know how you feel!)
Cara x
Sue, you are awe inspiring at all levels. Time to replenish that gorgeous body of yours and relax your mind.
Fern x
Your positive attitude and “real life” experiences make you one of a kind. You are right – not every day is roses, what goes up must come down and so the cycle continues, but it’s life and we must make the most of what life offers us. Big squeeze your way
Sue, no doubt you’ll be inundated with responses, but I wanted to add a comment too….sharing your miscarriage story with us (your followers) was deeply moving and a testament to the type of person you are…..I was told for years and years that I’d never have children and my husband and I accepted this fact and lived life to the full……then one day I visited the doctor after feeling sick for weeks on end (thinking I was partying too hard with Christmas festivities!) and was told I was 11 weeks pregnant……I was very late 30′s, hadn’t had a period for 8 years and bingo, up the duff! things happen that sometimes we cannot explain…..your miracle will come Sue….perhaps it just wasn’t your time! lots of love to you and your partner…
Hi Sue
I just want to add my response and say how brave you are and inspiring to share your inner most thoughts and feelings with us. We can only learn from these things and hopefully it will make you stronger and we know all things happen for a reason even though we might not like it at the time. Fingers crossed for yourself and your hubby soon I am sure it won’t be long and you will be sharing happier blogs with us again:)
Maxine
Hi Sue,
I haven’t had a miscarriage so I can’t say I know what you are going through, but I do want you to know that I am thinking of you and Damien, and sending you heaps of my very best wishes.
Gill xx
Hi Sue
Thanks for the shout out – I continue to think of you always and you know everything else i think anyway
love Marce xo
Hi Sue,
I nearly burst out crying when I read about losing your baby, when the time is right you will fall again, believe that mother nature has its reasons and when the time is right she will bless you.
I wanted to let you know what an inspiration you are, you carry all your emotions on your sleeve and share them with the world – I look forward to reading your blog and you prove that you go through the ups and downs the same as any other person, you deserve every good fortune as you are such a good person – you don’t gloss over the truth, tell it how it is – I even agonised over your comp training and diet – it seemed to be a struggle to get there but you looked hotter than any 40yr old and won!! – you have helped me and so many others through IBO and I thank you very much. Lesley